There were some really good bits on Friday’s episode of Kitchen Nightmares. It was an interesting example of dysfunctional psychopath dynamics. Fox may have made a good decision, to split it into two episodes. There was a lot of material.
Every person in that episode had the psychopathic or parasitic personality type. That was very interesting.
When you have a very strong psychopath leading things, the intelligent people are all weeded out. That’s probably why all the employees were parasites or psychopaths. Any intelligent person would have rapidly quit or gotten fired.
The head psychopath was the father and head owner. That was pretty obvious. Look at the overall facial pattern and wrinkle pattern, on the father’s face. That’s a good indication.
The father and his son both received an inheritance from their grandfather, presumably $250k. The father was trustee for his son’s inheritance. (That bit of the episode was unexplained. Why was the father trustee for his son’s inheritance? Wasn’t the son an adult?)
The father decided to open a restaurant. He stole his son’s $250k inheritance, and invested it in the restaurant. Even after his son found out about the theft, the father refused to give his son any shareholder rights, such as letting him inspect the restaurant’s books.
I was disappointed that Ramsay wasn’t more hostile on that point. “WTF? Your father stole $250k from you!” The spin was that the son was a reluctant shareholder, rather than someone who was the victim of robbery and fraud and fiduciary neglect.
The father’s wife also had parasitic tendencies. She was subordinate to her husband’s evil, but still a parasite.
It is possible that two parasites and/or psychopaths will get married, continually manipulating each other. It is very rare for two “abused productive” people to get together, because someone has to play the emotionally dominant role
The head chef was also a parasite. He did defer to the father and head psychopath. You can see subservient body language in some places, such as stooping forward when talking to the father.
The son also had parasitic tendencies. However, he was the low person on the totem pole, causing him to develop some intelligence.
Notice how they are always deflecting blame to others, rather than trying to do the right thing. That’s the key point about psychopath interpersonal relationships. It’s about deflecting blame and showing up the other person. It’s not about whether you do a good job or not, but whether or not you get blamed for failure.
I wonder if that’s the reasoning behind these stupid programming frameworks and methodologies. If you use a stupid method, that enables the boss to blame his subordinates. For example, at the job where I was forced to use Rails, the boss was probably thinking “Why did that stubborn FSK refuse to work with Rails? He’s the reason I failed.” rather than “Using Rails was a stupid idea. I was lucky to have FSK working for me, who could have helped me succeed if only I listened to him.” Actually, I did try Rails, and found it 100% unusable. I did spend a lot of time reading through the documentation, and couldn’t understand any of it. That isn’t because I’m stupid. It’s because Rails is a mess.
I also was sympathetic to the head chef’s complaint “Why am I forced to use this crappy menu and lousy food?” That sounded like my complaint “Why are you forcing me to use Ruby on Rails? Why are you forcing me to use node.js? Why are you forcing me to waste time on ‘test-driven-development’? I should be writing code first and then the tests.”
It also was interesting to see the psychopath father’s reasoning. “This frozen meat is the #1 brand. Therefore, it’s awesome.” and “This beer is rated in the top 10.” In psychopath logic, the opinions of others are what counts. That’s more important than actually tasting the meat or beer and judging for yourself. That’s like “Rails and node.js are the hot trendy thing. Therefore, I should use them.” I evaluate the framework and language myself, and avoid the ones that suck. I tried a little PHP, liked it, and I’m doing a lot of personal PHP now for this website.
The son’s girlfriend also had parasitic tendencies. However, she did have a useful role, attempting to protect the son from his abusive parents. For example, when they fired the chef, the parents needed $1k to cover the last paycheck. They convinced their son to give them another $1k, so they could make payroll. The girlfriend objected, saying “WTF? Are you crazy? Don’t give them another $1k after they stole $250k from you?” However, the parents overruled. I also was disappointed that Ramsay didn’t object here.
Unfortunately, Ramsay will probably promote a pro-State propaganda ending. He will have a “happy ending”, where everyone reconciles and learns to work together.
That is impossible. The father is an incorrigible psychopath. In this case, I’d give the Stefan Molyneux advice and DEFOO. The son should completely cut off his parents.
Ramsay is going to try to show how everyone learned to work together, and he taught them to behave. I doubt that actually happened.
A psychopath doesn’t learn to be not a psychopath, even after 3 days with Gordon Ramsay.
Ramsay isn’t going to give the son the correct advice. Ramsay should have said “Your father stole $250k from you. That money is lost and gone. Don’t make the sunk costs fallacy. Don’t put more time and money and effort into the restaurant. Your psychopath father won’t let it succeed. Accept that you lost $250k. It doesn’t pay to sue your father. Quit and go get a job working somewhere else. Accept the loss and move on.”
Instead, Ramsay is going to present an ending where the son learns to reconcile with his father. That is false. Some people are just plain evil. The father is an incorrigible psychopath and won’t learn.
This episode had very interesting interpersonal dynamics. All the people where psychopaths or parasites.
According to this page, the owners of Burger Kitchen sold shortly after being on the show. The show taped in April 2011 and the owners sold in August 2011.
I wonder if the son got any of his money back? Being on Kitchen Nightmares could boost the sale value of the restaurant.